I haven't really talked to anyone since I posted the last email from Susan and Mitch called me before we left, but this is what I've been thinking after reading what everyone has posted on the blog. We're in Arco, ID, and have been camping out each night.
I believe that we all share Chuck’s desire to remain independent as long as possible. We all do not want to inconvenience anyone. That being said, there is a time in all of our lives to hand over this responsibility to someone else. The evidence suggests that he is not able to take care of himself.
Given Chuck’s record of not pursuing his own retirement benefits, nearly losing his house, almost certainly suffering a stroke (or series of stroke), not being responsible for his own health (to his own demise), I feel that it is the proper time for someone to take over his decision making process with Power of Attorney. While this is not a cure-all it is at least a step in direction.
Since he has already said that he would sign over Power of Attorney at some point to Mitch or Carlene, given their proximity, I think that they should be the proper ones to do it if they choose,. This is an inconvenience to anyone that chooses to be involved and it is just what Chuck wants to avoid, but I think that it is necessary. The last time Mitch had to help deal with Chuck’s house situation he lost at least a week of work plus contributing at least $3,500 to help save Chuck’s house. Of late, as Susan mentioned, Chuck has not made himself available to Mitch when Mitch wanted to stop by and talk to him. Carlene has missed at least a day of work besides taking him to the ER room.
Illa, if you would be willing to take him in that would be great. I think whoever deals with it, it will be an ongoing battle. I do think an environment such as where you live could be very beneficial.
Jim
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Couldnt agree more Jim. From what im reading Chuck needs some stability and someone that can help him focus. I think that illa is VERY generous in taking on this task. even if for just a short time.
she has a big heart and a loving attitude. i know that she can keep Chuck on task with any errand that she may set him to. And I think that is the first step, besides getting his health in line.
Dick
I talked to Mitch today and he doesn't think Chuck is quite as bad as he thought but that feels he does need supervision to keep his medical conditions in control. He believes that Chuck is to be released by Wednesday. I guess that Lili is due to go down then. I will go down the following Wednesday to see how things are going. Maybe Chuck will decide to come and visit for a bit and rest up. I don't want to push him and want him to feel free to come. I really could use help on my projects and it would give him something to focus on. Anyway, it will give me an opportunity to see how much he has changed in a year.
So, all we can do is watch and wait for the time being. He has to be willing to do this on his own time. As for the Power of Attorney, Chuck was pretty insistent that he wanted Mitch or Carlene and I feel that we should respect his wishes in that matter.
Mitch, if you have found Chuck's file folder there should be power of attornery papers in there. If not thenthe hospital in the services dept. they should have papers that can be filled out and they have notaries there. Usually they will do it for free for patients or at least a nominal fee. I will look thru the papers that I have saved to the comp and find the ones that we used for Ben and will email them to you. It would not hurt to do a Living Trust and I will bring those papers down or even email them as they also need to be notarized. Anyway, we will get this all done together so that he will be taken care of.
Illa
I've already written Illa and told her how happy I am about her offer. The anxiety I feel for Chuck's health will be greatly diminished if I find he has accepted it. And thank you Lili for your generous and loving willingness to help. You are a sweetheart.
All, thank you, I talked to Lueria today, as she called to say Happy Fathers Day, to Jess, and told her I was going down to Chucks, all are in agreement, here, anyway, also taking also with his couph and all, sounds just like me. I am so greatful, will be working on the diet, foods,.. with what he wishes, and we are talking about plan's, he also spoke to Lisi, and it was great.
I am so greatful for the friendship that Chuck and I have, and Illa, I did speak to him, that I would be willing to bring him to you if she wishes, so he can check it out, but the medical he needs and what is going on,.... also I understand, some of what he wishes, as we spoke about, and support that need. Jess understands also that for Chuck and wishes to see me down there also.
With my allergies, I am looking at, also so Chuck is going to help me also, so it is a two way street. I will be there as long as he wishes, and we plan to have some fun as sister and brother, it will be great to see all the Davis family and connect with them. They have alway's had a spot in my heart.
Love to all,
With hope I can leave Wensday afternoon or Thursday.
Hello all,
Here is the latest news.
Carlene went to see Chuck last night, and she said that Chuck is in high spirit, and in a good frame of mind, he said that he had talked with Lili, and that he was excited she was coming to be with, and help him, also he seems to be making plans of what things he would like to do with her, you know his little road trips, and so on.
Anyhow in the conversation with Chuck he expressed his feelings about the fact that he wishes to remain at home with Lili helping him, and does not want to leave, my best guise is that if he can make good progress with Lili helping him in his health issues, it may be best to give him a chance to prove himself, so long as he continues to make the proper health choices, and lets Lili continue to work with him.
I'm still going to be on high alert, and if things don't go the way we feel is best for him, at that point we may have to do things the way we best see fit, in order to
save his health, and even his life.
Any how I'll keep you updated on any new news.
Take care, I love you all.
Sincerely,
Mitch.
Good plan Mitch. I know all involved will do a good job. Thanks for keeping us all updated. We're hoping all you guys will have time to make the reunion, so we can express our thanks face to face.
I am glad that he is doing better. He loves that city so much. I know he wore Ben and me out taking us around there. He has a nice place Hope all goes well. I will still come down and visit. It is good that Lili will get to stay for a while. My trip right now will have to be a flying trip. But I will be able to bring down those papers for you.
My Boss is planning her son's wedding and it is hard to get time off. I put in for the reunion this week. We had a discussion about it so will see. I put on the note and slip, I am leaving (underlined) after work 9-1 and will be back 9-8. She asked me what I meant by that. They have some reception going on that weekend also. Told her that I was going to the reunion and that I would like to know that I don't have to be back before I leave. If I have to come back early I would but I want to be gone so that we can spend time together. Will see. So anyway, we will be there before that weekend. That is the plan. You know what they say about the best laid plans.
Illa
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